In my work as a consulting hypnotist, I guide people who want to tap the power of the subconscious mind to improve performance and lead a happier life. I learn as much from my clients as I teach. When I work with kids and teens, they say funny and often profound things as we work together to craft a positive message for the subconscious mind. These four kids have some awesome advice for living. Check it out:
“When someone who doesn’t know me is mean to me, I don’t let it bother me. I mean, it’s not like they’re insulting my character, they don’t even know me! They’re probably just going through something.” Pretty Zen for a 16 year old! It’s true, too. Everyone, every day is going through something and if it happens to manifest as someone being rude, unkind, or thoughtless—let it go. You’ll be better off for doing so and you’d probably need that kind of pass from someone someday too.
“Friends are the people who show up for your stuff. If it’s important to you, they be there for it.”
I love that guy. He always says the best stuff and I love that he has learned at a young age there is a difference between a friendly acquaintance and true friendship. “Being there” doesn’t only mean physical presence; it’s also about sharing in each other’s big moments in ways that matter, acknowledge and validate. Accepting that there are levels of friendship among the people we call friends helps one set expectations and avoid resentment.
“Embrace the bullet. It’s already here, you may as well deal.”
While she may have been thinking of the phrase, “bite the bullet” I like hers better. It’s more positive in that it speaks to being open and flexible in a difficult situation rather than taking a stance that is rigid and about endurance. And of course, avoidance, denial or suppression just makes things worse. Get in there and embrace the bullet! We learn a lot from our difficulties when we remain open. You go, Girl!
“Whenever I find myself getting fearful, negative or even just wasting time, I ask myself: ‘What’s the point of that?’ The answer is usually no point in it at all so I just make a change. It works. Keeps me on track.”
Ingenious formula for a perspective check from a twelve year old. Totally works for me, bet it will work for you too.
I love my job.
About the author: Mona Jones is a Consulting Hypnotist in Orange County, California who works with clients across the country via Skype and in person on improving performance for the heart and mind using guided meditiation, hypnosis, EFT, Bi-lateral tapping and other techniques. For more information visit: www.MonaJonesHypnosis.com