Let’s go ahead and call him Bad Decision Guy.
When we’re observing (okay, judging) Bad Decision Guy, it’s not that we’re blaming the victim, we’re just acknowledging that for some people tragedy is not an “if” it’s a “when”. Smoking some weed before climbing behind the wheel of a car for a professional race in which lightning quick reflexes are a life and death matter, qualifies as a bad decision. Doing that and climbing out of that race car onto a hot race track full of cars so you can confront a hulking beast of metal and rubber coming straight at you at high speed in a fit of rage, qualifies you as Bad Decision Guy. Dragging others into your bad decision, seals the deal.
My heart breaks for the family of professional race car driver, 20 year old Kevin Ward Jr., who was killed after being struck by his competitor, NASCAR driver, Tony Stewart in a confrontation Aug. 9 when a car driven by Stewart struck and killed Ward during a dirt track race at Canandaigua Motorsports Park. His lack of life experience and Bad Decision Guy persona led him down a path that cost him his life that terrible day and profoundly affected the lives of others.
In an Associated Press article, Stewart talks about knowing 100 percent in his heart and mind that he did not do anything wrong. An upstate New York grand jury in opting not to indict him on manslaughter charges, agrees. Yet he is overwhelmed by grief and its accompanying fog. Some days he can’t get out of bed. He now has a hard time caring about racing and is plagued by his emotions. He finds it difficult to go out in public as he is scared of what people think and embarrassed by what happened. I guess you could say in that crash, Stewart was paralyzed. Mentally paralyzed.
In time, he may or may not make peace with what happened, find his way out of the darkness and go on with his life. Or, in time, this will fester like an untreated wound. That internal flogging becoming daily ritual, preventing him from embracing the fullness of life.
Where does Tony Stewart go from here?
Hopefully, straight to the hypnotherapy office! Using hypnosis, Stewart can copy and paste that certainty of not being responsible from the conscious mind to the subconscious mind; resolving his fears, his embarrassment and even guilt that he may feel far below the surface. In my office, we use traditional trance work as well as non-trance techniques to process a tragedy. This emotional healing is transformative and allows the client to return to a normal life at peace and with greater understanding, wisdom and motivation.
What transpired on that dirt racetrack that fateful day is a multidimensional, sad story layered with what ifs, if onlys and woulda/coulda/shouldas. No amount of suffering on Tony Stewart’s part will bring Ward back, so let the healing begin.
Tony Stewart get in my chair! It’s time to get your life back.
About the author:
Mona Jones is a Certified Hypnotherapist in Southern California who helps athletes and non-athletes alike let go of past mistakes, find their motivation again and embrace a brighter future using the power of hypnosis to access subconscious mind. For more information visit: